Quirks & Cures
Everyone knows disappointment sucks!!! What happens when you are disappointed? Are you impacted emotionally? Are you impacted mentally? Does your perspective towards the person change? If you are impacted in any of these areas, what should you do? I'm glad you asked.
During your last performance review, you mentioned to your manager that you wanted to ensure that the things you were doing were with a promotion in mind. You have successfully completed all tasks early and all projects under budget and early. This is consistent for the past few years, but you haven't been promoted. You and the team lead, and highly spoken of in the company, but you haven't gotten promoted, what's the problem.
In life, as we get older not everything works to perfection. We can't run as fast as we used to. We can't jump as high as we used to. We can't remember everything as quickly as we used to. We can't figure things out as fast as we used to. Some things need a little assistance. Our eyes may need glasses. Our knees or hips may need to be replaced. Our hearing may need a hearing aid. The reason for this is simple we use them and through that continuous usage and sometimes over-usage they are worn down. What can we say about where we are in life? are we worn down because of what we did or didn't do? Are we worn down because of what we heard or were told? Did we take action that was detrimental to our journey?
Men are important and special and kind and good-hearted and smart and thoughtful and resilient and brilliant and loving and so many other things. But rarely do you hear a man being referred to as sensitive. Men are incredibly sensitive, but that sensitivity oftentimes goes unnoticed. Most people associate sensitivity with weakness. Sensitivity simply says that a person is in tune with the world that they are in and the people that are in their sphere.
An example is that men are responsible for providing for their families; taking care of their wife to ensure that she is safe, healthy, and happy; raising and imparting knowledge and wisdom to their children, and making sure that everything in their sphere of influence is taken care of. Men are often criticized for what they fail to do but not celebrated for their successes. But when you ask a man how is life he tells them that everything is ok. OK is simply a lie. He has to say that or he may collapse under the weight of all that he is carrying.
When you look at your life, ask yourself who cares? Who cares about things related to you? Who cares that you didn't get promoted? Who cares that you had someone in your family pass away? Who cares that your child is underachieving and behaving poorly. Who cares that you are having relational issues. Who cares that you are dealing with major personal issues. Who cares about anything going on with you?