What's the most important question anyone can ask you? Where are you from? Who are your parents? Do you have siblings? Why are you here? What is your purpose?  All of those are good questions but not as important as being asked or having to answer, who are you?

The most important question is who are you? I was told a story about a person who had gone to the shopping mall looking for a particular store.  When they arrived the looked to the left and then to the right for the store. They wandered looking for the store but had a hard time finding it.  If only they had looked at the directory which showed where they were and the location of the stores related to where they were.

The directory shows where they are and in this case, if you know who you are, when you are presented things in life you will be able to navigate more easy while focusing on things that matter instead of things that don’t.

For example, if you want to be in a relationship is it wise for you to compare your situation, what you have or don’t have with another relationship? Does it make sense to ask “Why don’t you do those things for me?”  “Why don’t you take me traveling?” “Why don’t you buy me nice things?”  “Why don’t you compliment me more?”  All of those questions are good questions but it implies that you don’t know who you are as well you don’t know who your partner is.  If you knew who you were you would not have given them as much control/authority in your life as you did.  If you knew who you were you would have asked more questions at the beginning before you made the decision to get involved with them.

Here is another example of not know who you are.  When you applied for the job how much research did you do? Did you research the culture, employee retention, employee satisfaction, possibilities for upward mobility, cultural diversity, gender acceptance, etc.  If the answer is no to any of those questions, should you be surprised when this company looks/feels like your last company?  Or when you get treated badly, like your presence/voice doesn’t matter?  If you knew who you were, you would not accept those circumstances/situations, you would look for something different, something that better suits you.

However, that only applies when you know who you are.  If you ask for and receive $50 million.  If you don’t know who you are and how to handle money, you will be in the same position you are currently in within 3 years.  You will be wondering how you let this happen to you. How you let all that money slip through your fingers.

The key to all of this is to take time too honestly analyze who you are.  The good, the bad and the ugly.  Analyze the things that you want, and need. Analyze who is in your sphere of influence and who encourages you to be better while not damaging who you are.  When you finally understand who you are, look them in the mirror and tell them how much you love and adore them then tell them how proud of them you are. Then take the step towards your future.  Remember, every journey starts with a single step, let’s get to stepping.